Tuesday, December 29, 2009
Monday, December 28, 2009
Monday, December 21, 2009
Friday, December 18, 2009
I was tagged about a million years ago for this meme by bao in the oven. I had been saving it for a time when I really needed distraction or a post topic. So, thank you Mama Bao, having this meme to complete meant that I only spent 90% of my work day typing things like "5 weeks no symptoms" into Dr. Google. I'd like to tag a few other bloggers who are in need of distraction or blog topics. I'm tagging Mommies in the making, Half a dozen of the other, and Woes of a barren lesbo.
1. What is the color of your toothbrush?
Green. I always buy green toothbrushes.
2. Name one person who made you smile today.
3. What were you doing at 8 am this morning?
Unlocking the doors at work
4. What were you doing 45 minutes ago?
Packing things up for a UPS delivery.
5. What is your favorite candy bar?
Reeses, Twix and Crunchies
6. Have you ever been to a strip club?
Once, in college. A friend’s girlfriend was working there and we went to support her.
7. What is the last thing you said aloud?
“No, sorry” when someone asked if a phone had been turned into our lost and found.
8. What is your favorite ice cream?
Pistachio or hazelnut gelato. I also had a really amazing blackberry rhubarb sorbet at a place called Scoop and Crumb in Brighton. It was like I had found the sorbet I’d been searching for all my life.
9. What was the last thing you had to drink?
Gingerbread flavored herbal tea. It was the only non-caffeinated, artificial sweetener-free beverage available at a work party
10. Do you like your wallet?
It’s okay. I could really use some more space for cards. I always forget to use gift cards because I don’t have enough space to carry them all in my wallet.
11. What was the last thing you ate?
Pizza, at the work party.
12. Have you bought any new clothing items this week?
13. The last sporting event you watched?
Went to a Yankees game in August.
14. What is your favorite flavor of popcorn?
Either doused in Franks Red Hot, or with truffle salt and parmesan cheese.
15. Who is the last person you sent a text message to?
16. Ever go camping?
Not nearly enough.
17. Do you take vitamins daily?
T@rget brand prenatals, hidden inside a regular multivitamin container. I have nosy friends, and I don’t want them finding prenatals in my medicine cabinet.
18. Do you go to church every Sunday?
I’m not religious at all.
19. Do you have a tan?
Currently, not so much. The short days and fluorescent lights at work don’t help the situation.
20. Do you prefer Chinese food over pizza?
Very tough question, since there are so many variations. I love our regular Chinese restaurant, because they always give us the REAL menu. But bad Chinese food can be spectacularly bad. I suppose if I had to choose between bad pizza and bad Chinese food, I’d take the bad pizza because it would be the lesser of two evils. Good pizza vs. good Chinese food? It completely depends on the day.
21. Do you drink your soda with a straw?
I don’t really drink soda.
22. What did your last text message say?
I parked on Huntington St. and am about to walk over to the party. I am so glad we don’t live there anymore.
23. What are you doing tomorrow?
Having a holiday cocktail / hors d’oeuvres party, and having my 5 week ultrasound. Please please please let them see something!
24. Favorite color?
25. Look to your left; what do you see?
The UPS shipment I just packed up.
26. What color is your watch?
27. What do you think of when you hear “Australia”?
My spoiled brat cousin. She’s spending the second half of her junior year abroad in Australia, because she thinks of it as a free vacation. She’s already behind on credits at school because she doesn’t put any effort in. She likes the image of being a vacant sorority girl. Going to Australia will put her even further behind academically, but she doesn’t care because Mommy and Daddy are paying for her to go to college.
28. Would you strip for money?
Usually I pay a $15 co-pay for the privilege of stripping from the waist down.
29. Do you go in a fast food place or just hit the drive thru?
I only go into fast food places if I need to pee on a road trip.
30. What is your favorite number?
35. I decided a while back that when I hit 35, my life would be going in the direction I want it to. We’ll see.
31. Who’s the last person you talked to on the phone?
Elizabeth called and asked if I needed anything from the grocery store
32. Any plans today?
Make red velvet cupcakes and 3 kinds of truffles for our party tomorrow. Start prepping d’oeuvres, walk the dogs.
33. In how many states have you lived?
3. I lived in Connecticut and Massachusetts before I lived here.
34. Biggest annoyance right now?
The cold weather.
35. Last song listened to?
Dunno. Some Christmas song at a work party.
36. Can you say the alphabet backwards?
Not without some serious concentration. I’m screwed if I ever get pulled over and they suspect I’m drunk.
37. Do you have a maid service clean your house?
38. Favorite pair of shoes you wear all the time?
39. Are you jealous of anyone?
The uber-fertile, homeowners, people who have the means to travel whenever they want.
40. Is anyone jealous of you?
I used to think not, but then I found out that a lot of our friends are jealous that Elizabeth and I are in a stable relationship and have our shit together more than they do. And for these people, owning a vacuum constitutes having your shit together.
41. Do you love anyone?
Of course. It makes me so sad to think that someone might answer no.
42. Do any of your friends have children?
Just one. My friend Angela has 9 and 12 year old boys. I absolutely adore those kids. The 12 year old has a picture of our dog on his f@cebook page. How cute is that?
43. What do you usually do during the day?
Work, procrastinate, walk the dog, cook, read, snuggle.
44. Do you hate anyone that you know right now?
My mom always told me that hate is a very strong word. Some people annoy the crap out of me though.
45. Do you use the word hello daily?
I’m more of a “hey” kind of girl.
46. What color is your car?
I think it’s called desert sand. It’s that not-quite-gold color so popular with cars made in the mid 90’s
47. What size wedding ring do you wear?
Never had a wedding, don’t have a ring.
48. Are you thinking about someone right now?
People I still need to buy Christmas presents for.
49. Have you ever been to Six Flags?
Not since it was called Riverside.
50. How did you get your worst scar?
My only scar is a really little one on my knee, from trying to shave my legs when I was too young to know how to do it properly.
Tuesday, December 15, 2009
Saturday, December 12, 2009
Tuesday, December 8, 2009
Wednesday, December 2, 2009
Saturday, November 28, 2009
Wednesday, November 25, 2009
On Monday I went in for a scan and had a good number of follicles in the 15-17 range. The doctor said that I should trigger that night, and come in Wed for the retrieval. The old Gayby Rabies would have just trusted the doctor and done the shot that night. But not the new Gayby, who has vowed to live by STFU. I patiently reminded the doctor- the same one who put the note in my record in the first place- that we had agreed I'd stim a little longer before triggering. She played around on the computer for a minute, and then found the information about my last cycle. She agreed to let me stim a little longer, and I'm feeling more positive about this cycle.
So the good news is that upon triggering, I have a number of follicles that are 20mm and above. The bad news? My retrieval is scheduled for 11am on Thanksgiving Day. I'm still not sure how I am going to pull that off. I still haven't told my family we're TTC. Somehow, I have to get from the clinic to my aunt's house- which is 1 1/2 away without holiday traffic- in time for Thanksgiving dinner. They can't know why we're so late. I think I'm going to have to take a page from the book of my crazy co-worker and come up with a wild excuse. Please just let this be the last time I have to lie to my family.
Sunday, November 22, 2009
Wednesday, November 4, 2009
Sunday, November 1, 2009
Friday, October 23, 2009
Monday, October 19, 2009
Sunday, October 18, 2009
Bao in the oven asked:
Because I'm also partnered to someone who will eventually (fingers crossed) have a PhD, my question is about how the two of you see your careers relying on each other's. In other words, will y'all move wherever her career takes her? Are there places she won't even consider because you couldn't find a job or wouldn't want to live there?
I've let my career take a back seat while Elizabeth worked on her PhD. I always figured that I would decide what I want to do once she's gotten a job somewhere. I think part of the reason I've been hesitant to explore what I really want to do job-wise is because I don't want my career needs to conflict with hers. It would be hard if I found an ideal job here, but she was offered a tenure track position in California. Our plans to have a family together have a huge impact on where we're willing to live. She's not applying for jobs in places like Alabama or Oklahoma because we don't want to deal with laws that would be hostile to our family situation.
what is your favorite food memory?
Favorite food memory #2 is when Elizabeth took me to Blue Hill at the Stone Barn Center for my birthday 2 years ago. First we had a tour of the beautiful grounds and had the chance to sample tomatoes and green beans straight off the vines. Then we had lunch in the restaurant. During the summer they just bring you plate after plate of whatever is good and fresh that day. Everything we ate was grown / raised on the property, and every bite was perfect.
What's your dream vacation?
I would love to be one of those people who just sells her house and spends a year traveling the world. Of course, this is very much a dream because I don't even have a house to sell!
and a question from Libberal:
What are you favorite foods, and why?
I particularly love trying food from different places because I think it's so interesting to experience different flavor combinations and cooking methods. When I was about 10, I was visiting a nearby city with my mother and we passed an Ethiopian restaurant. I asked if we could try it, but she already had dinner plans. I continued to pester her for over a year to go to the restaurant, but she always said no. Then one day, she went with some friends and decided that she didn't like Ethiopian food. I gave her the cold shoulder for a week because I was so mad. I knew that without my mother to give me a ride, I'd have to wait until I got my drivers license to try Ethiopian food!
I love almost all food. Sometimes when I'm bored I'll go through the alphabet in my head and try to come up with my favorite food for each letter. I love dosas and vada and bhel puri and rasam. I love pho and tiny rice noodles with bbq pork and mint. I love pad kee mao and red curry. I love black curry and kotthu roti and and chicken biryani. I can stuff myself silly with rice and peas and plantains and oxtail. Tamales and tacos al pastor make me swoon. I love things that are terrible for me, like rillets and salumi platters and duck confit and cheese. You would know there is something wrong with me if I ever turned down ice cream. I love raspberries because there were raspberries growing in my yard as a child and I think they taste like sunshine. If I had to make a very general statement about my preferences, I'd say that I lean towards Asian and Latin American / Carribean food, and I like bold flavors.
Justine from Figboiler asked:
*what's on your to-do-before-40/ 50/ death (you name the deadline) list?
Besides having a baby? I would love to lear how to play any kind of musical instrument. I want to own a home. I want to find a career that I love.
My silly, and very doable to-do-item is to eat an ice cream cone with at least 3 scoops of different flavors.
*if it were all expense paid, where would you go on vacation?
I'd probably go to India, since it's so different from anyplace I've ever been and I know I'd like the food. Or maybe I'd bum around Europe for a while like all the rich kids do after they graduate.
*what's your favorite: dinner, treat, splurge, standby dinner? included recipes will be happily accepted!
My favorite dinner is anything that anyone else cooks for me. It's not because I'm lazy, but because I think cooking for someone else is a very loving thing to do. It makes me so happy to think that someone cares about me enough to put the effort into cooking. My favorite treat is good cheese. After each BFN, I buy myself little consolation prize of raw milk cheese. My favorite splurge is truffle salt. It seems like an insane amount of money to spend on a tiny jar of salt, but a little goes a long way. If you sprinkle it on popcorn with some butter and freshly grated parmesan cheese, people will think you're a genius. My standby dinner is red curry. I always have coconut milk and curry paste in the house, so it's a good way to use up any veggies or meat left over in the fridge. When I do parties, I tend to cater to the least common denominator since some of my friends are very picky. My turkey burger sliders (some of my friends don't eat beef) always go over really well. The secret is crushed chipotle peppers and worcestershire sauce.
*what are you doing with your days/ nights now that you aren't allowed to use google?
I saw a play the other day and did lunch with my brother. I went to a birthday party for my friend's son. I made caramel apples, and I am trying to figure out my halloween costume for the party we're throwing.
Journey Towards Our Baby asked:
1. Who is your favourite artist, and if you have one what is your favourite piece of art.
I don't have one favorite, but I love anytime art comes out of the museum and into the community. It can be anything from the orange gates in Central Park to a dragon made out of sand at the beach in San Francisco. I love anything that breaks the monotony of everyday and makes you think or smile.
2. If you could see any musician in concert, alive or dead, who would it be?
As odd as he was in his later years, I really wish I had gotten the chance to see Michael Jackson. When he was good, he was really good and you can't deny that he was incredibly influential. And I think his music will always be associated with our generation. I imagine my children will be shocked to learn that I never went to a Michael Jackson concert.
And last but not least, a question from Poppycat:
- What are three things you always have in your kitchen Gayby?
Like you, I always have a dog waiting for anything to fall on the floor. I always have lots of condiments- Elizabeth will put hoisin sauce on anything. I always have a giant hunk of parmesan cheese for grating.
- Describe your favorite pair of shoes and and tell us why you love them.
Ok, here's a picture of my favorite shoes:
I love them because I think they're cute, and I get compliments on them whenever I wear them. They have also led me to other pairs of shoes. They may be cute, but they are horribly uncomfortable. I made the mistake of wearing them when I was in London last year, on a day when we were doing a lot of walking. When I couldn't take it anymore, I just walked into a store and bought a cute pair of flats!
Friday, October 16, 2009
Because inquiring minds want to know...part 1 of your questions answered!
You have mentioned that you job is not your ideal job, so I am curious, what is your job and what would you rather be doing every day instead?
My current job is in an academic library. When Elizabeth got accepted to grad school, I needed to find a job quickly to support us both. I had library experience and this job was available. I’ve stuck with it because the benefits are good.
I’m not really sure what my ideal job is. I didn’t have much direction in college, so I always worry that I don’t have the right background to get a better job. At the moment, I think it would be really cool to do one of the edible schoolyard projects or maybe something with urban agriculture. The only problem is that I have no experience in agriculture or education, so that's not an option unless I go back to school.
How did you meet your partner?
We met in college. She was a sophomore transfer student and I was a senior. I would see her in the living room or the dining hall of our dorm and thought she was cute. I tried to get any information I could about her from mutual acquaintences. Everything I heard about Elizabeth made her seem like someone I’d really like. Suddenly I turned into a shy middle-schooler. I made a blabbermouth mutual friend of ours tell her that there was someone who was interested in her just to gage if she was interested in being in a relationship. We had a coffee date a day or two later. I was smitten, but I didn’t know how she felt. It was the week of Valentine’s Day. On Valentine’s Day eve, Elizabeth and I were studying in the living room of our dorm with about 6 other people. After Elizabeth went to bed, I put a bouquet of flowers and a card outside her door letting her know that I really liked her. I thought she’d find it in the morning, but she found it later that night and came running back down the stairs to the living room. I wasn’t ready to deal with rejection in the event that she wasn’t interested in me, so I pretended to be asleep on the couch. She shook me “awake” to make plans for a second date.
What did you both want to be when you grew up? How many siblings do you have?
I wanted to be a writer. My favorite subjects in elementary school were reading and creative writing. I thought that because I wrote really long stories, it meant they were very good. Elizabeth wanted to be a singing hairdresser. I’m not sure how she thought that would work out. Elizabeth can NOT sing. I'm not kidding. Even when she tries to hum a tune, I can't tell what it is.
I have 1 brother who I grew up with. We’re a year apart. We fought all the time as kids, but get along pretty well now. My father had an affair when I was about 5, and got another woman pregnant. (my mom promptly kicked him out) So I also have a half sister who is 6 years younger than I am. She lived with her mom and my father about ½ hour away from us until my sister was 4. Then my sister and her mother moved from Connecticut to Indiana. I used to see her about 1 or 2 times a year, but then it became clear what a jerk my father is and he would only pay to have her fly out about every other year. I have trouble staying in touch with my sister because she moves around a lot and doesn’t always give me updated contact information. She’s struggling a lot, because she has never had a strong adult in her life. Her mother is very unstable. The whole situation makes me very sad.
Friday, October 9, 2009
Sunday, October 4, 2009
Friday, October 2, 2009
Monday, September 28, 2009
Monday, September 21, 2009
It has been one year since we parted ways and I must admit, I still miss you terribly. I'm sure you were hurt and confused by the break-up. First I start seeing less and less of you, and then I stop returning your calls entirely. Believe me when I say it's not you it's me. You were my reason for getting up in the morning. You made me feel alive. At times I'll catch a whiff of your perfume on the air and I'll feel nostalgic for the old days, when we were inseparable. When I was having a tough day, you could comfort me like no one else could.
Sometimes I think we can still be friends. Maybe see each other on occasion. But I have to be honest with myself. I know that if I start seeing you a little bit, I'll want you all the time. I have no control when it comes to you. So for now we must remain apart, even though there are some days when I think it will kill me. But I won't ever give up on the hope of us being together again...someday.
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
Tuesday, September 8, 2009
Last week Elizabeth's parent's were visiting and her mother commented on a little hand painted bowl sitting on the counter. She picked it up to admire it further and complimented our good taste. Little did she know that this is the bowl that we used for all of our home insems. The bowl would be placed on the bedside table to hold the thawing vials so they wouldn't fall and roll under the bed or radiator. I thanked her, but with a stupid grin on my face. And then I caught Elizabeth's eye and nearly died trying to stop myself from laughing. It is not normal to laugh or avoid eye contact when someone compliments your kitchenware.
I am so terrible at hiding my emotions and keeping secrets. Why did I think I would be able to get myself knocked up without anyone finding out until I announced my pregnancy?