Because inquiring minds want to know...part 1 of your questions answered!
You have mentioned that you job is not your ideal job, so I am curious, what is your job and what would you rather be doing every day instead?
My current job is in an academic library. When Elizabeth got accepted to grad school, I needed to find a job quickly to support us both. I had library experience and this job was available. I’ve stuck with it because the benefits are good.
I’m not really sure what my ideal job is. I didn’t have much direction in college, so I always worry that I don’t have the right background to get a better job. At the moment, I think it would be really cool to do one of the edible schoolyard projects or maybe something with urban agriculture. The only problem is that I have no experience in agriculture or education, so that's not an option unless I go back to school.
How did you meet your partner?
We met in college. She was a sophomore transfer student and I was a senior. I would see her in the living room or the dining hall of our dorm and thought she was cute. I tried to get any information I could about her from mutual acquaintences. Everything I heard about Elizabeth made her seem like someone I’d really like. Suddenly I turned into a shy middle-schooler. I made a blabbermouth mutual friend of ours tell her that there was someone who was interested in her just to gage if she was interested in being in a relationship. We had a coffee date a day or two later. I was smitten, but I didn’t know how she felt. It was the week of Valentine’s Day. On Valentine’s Day eve, Elizabeth and I were studying in the living room of our dorm with about 6 other people. After Elizabeth went to bed, I put a bouquet of flowers and a card outside her door letting her know that I really liked her. I thought she’d find it in the morning, but she found it later that night and came running back down the stairs to the living room. I wasn’t ready to deal with rejection in the event that she wasn’t interested in me, so I pretended to be asleep on the couch. She shook me “awake” to make plans for a second date.
What did you both want to be when you grew up? How many siblings do you have?
I wanted to be a writer. My favorite subjects in elementary school were reading and creative writing. I thought that because I wrote really long stories, it meant they were very good. Elizabeth wanted to be a singing hairdresser. I’m not sure how she thought that would work out. Elizabeth can NOT sing. I'm not kidding. Even when she tries to hum a tune, I can't tell what it is.
I have 1 brother who I grew up with. We’re a year apart. We fought all the time as kids, but get along pretty well now. My father had an affair when I was about 5, and got another woman pregnant. (my mom promptly kicked him out) So I also have a half sister who is 6 years younger than I am. She lived with her mom and my father about ½ hour away from us until my sister was 4. Then my sister and her mother moved from Connecticut to Indiana. I used to see her about 1 or 2 times a year, but then it became clear what a jerk my father is and he would only pay to have her fly out about every other year. I have trouble staying in touch with my sister because she moves around a lot and doesn’t always give me updated contact information. She’s struggling a lot, because she has never had a strong adult in her life. Her mother is very unstable. The whole situation makes me very sad.
4 months ago