So far, we've been incredibly happy with this sperm bank. They are attentive, friendly and offer very personalized service. So we felt like a bomb had been dropped on us when our clinic told us last week they could no longer accept shipments from that sperm bank. Apparently, there is a problem with the sperm bank's FDA certification. The bank has a state certification, but not a federal certification. Why no federal certification? Because they openly allow gay men to be donors and the FDA donor policy is homophobic.
Now, we're not sure about how to proceed. It's been 11 days since my IUI, and I haven't experienced a single symptom of early pregnancy. So I'm thinking that this cycle is a BFN, and it's time to start thinking about the next cycle. It's hard to think about giving up on this sperm bank. It's not like we're using a traditional sperm bank and they just sold our of our top choice donor. If we stop using this sperm bank, it will fundamentally alter the way our child(ren) grow up. So these are the possibilities we came up with....
*Home insemination, which I'm not wild about because we've tried that 3 times without success.
*Pleading with our clinic to find some loophole that will allow us to continue to use this sperm bank.
*Switching to a traditional sperm bank, because thousands of women use them every year and manage to raise normal, well adjusted kids.
*Flying cross country to the sperm bank. (shipping myself rather than the tank of sperm) The sperm bank does perform IUIs, but this would be expensive and logistically challenging.
That's all we've come up with so far. If anyone out there has any brilliant ideas or insight, we're open to anything!