I want to thank everyone who commented on my last post, it's been truly helpful to me as I decide where to go from here. The 21 day cycle has me really concerned. As nice as this new doctor is, infertility is not his specialty. He scheduled my progesterone test for a full week after the IUI, which seems a bit late to me. So now I'm crawling back to the fancy clinic with my tail between my legs. Even though it felt like I was on a conveyor belt there at times, I realize that 9 failed attempts means that I really need the services they offer.
The big issue with going back to the fancy clinic is that we won't be able to use the sperm bank that has ID release at 3 months. It's been very hard to give that up, and I've spent a good part of the weekend feeling guilty. On the flip side, it has been exciting to look at new donors. I always feel a renewed sense of hope when I change things up. Still, it's getting harder and harder to muster up that hope. 9 failures is a lot. I don't know of anyone who has had 9 failures and still managed to get a BFP without switching to IVF. There is absolutely no way I can afford IVF. We can't switch carriers and try to get Elizabeth pregnant at this point because she's on the academic job market. Nobody wants to hire a pregnant professor. I am hoping beyond hope that changing donors and a little help from the clinic will be just the thing we need to get a BFP.