tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5228627609350666642.post2000875808430876612..comments2023-09-04T09:40:22.672-04:00Comments on Gayby Rabies: Daycare woesGayby Rabieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01779637237846558012noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5228627609350666642.post-9725805997442373392011-05-25T00:53:34.748-04:002011-05-25T00:53:34.748-04:00I feel for you, I really do. One of the hardest th...I feel for you, I really do. One of the hardest things for me every day is being a working mom and leaving my kids in someone else's care. It makes me sad, angry and feeling irrelevant and out of control. <br /><br />We have a pretty good nanny but we've had our share of issues and I often wish we could afford the schmancy daycare instead, one that taught multiple languages and had more activites. The thing that really tipped me over was when I found out she was letting my 4 month olds watch tv during the day. I was pissed. We had a talk about it but I often feel like I'm being held hostage and can't be as picky as I want to be because I don't have other options financially. <br /><br />I hope you can work things out in a way that leaves you happy and at peace with your daycare. It's so hard to have that worry in the back of your mind all day. I often find myself distracted at work because of it. I'm wishing a winning lotto ticket forbeach of us my dear! Then we won't have to worry about it at all! :)Poppycatnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5228627609350666642.post-49171129968181560732011-05-18T17:15:01.053-04:002011-05-18T17:15:01.053-04:00I feel for you. I didn't want to have our kidd...I feel for you. I didn't want to have our kiddos (b/g twins, 14 months old now) in daycare, and it was so hard when we ended up having to go the daycare route. That said, don't feel like you're at the center's mercy. Sunburns, heating bottles in the microwave, and putting them down to sleep on their tummies (unless you specifically ask them to, and in many cases have a signed consent form with a Dr's ok) shouldn't be things you feel you have to look the other way about. Perhaps the caregivers just need some gentle education about how you'd like to see things done? One can hope... Best wishes!thiswillbehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00039962803687227732noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5228627609350666642.post-16686438404638068662011-05-18T15:03:56.915-04:002011-05-18T15:03:56.915-04:00Ugh, blargh, blech. I know, as you know, how stres...Ugh, blargh, blech. I know, as you know, how stressful daycare can be. We too had issues with communication (the sheet, when it was filled out, often contradicted itself--like, don't try to tell me you changed her diaper when she was asleep!), napping, the whole nine. At the end of the day, I really think Essie was fine and would have been fine if she'd stayed there; I wasn't. I was worried and anxious all of the time, and it was affecting other parts of my life. As soon as we decided to switch, I was suddenly much more able to get my work done and was much more pleasant to be around at home, including with the baby. It's made a world of difference for my mental health.<br />That said, today is Essie's first day at the new fancy-ass place, and she's not napping. (Hopefully that'll change once she gets used to it.) Also, every baby I saw there when we went to visit this week was sleeping on his/her stomach. (In our state they have to touch them every 15 minutes.)<br />Is your daycare a center or is it home-based? Our first one was home-based, and the director was also the owner/primary caregiver, so we didn't feel like there was anyone over her head that we could talk to. I think that if it had been a center, I would have felt more able to communicate my concerns, but I felt really uncomfortable doing so because she already thought we were overbearing. <br />Anyway. Sorry this is so long. <br />(I am plugging my ears and singing "la la la" to myself re-reading your first paragraph. I prefer to continue to dream that once Mama Jae finishes her *$&% dissertation she will get a tenure-track job in a city where we actually want to live...oy!)mama bea, bao in the ovenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10892901302368080471noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5228627609350666642.post-16471186752300448872011-05-16T14:17:57.549-04:002011-05-16T14:17:57.549-04:00I have been anti-daycare since day one, and the gr...I have been anti-daycare since day one, and the grandparent network worked well. Then, Bub was laid off (and is STILL looking for work.) Now, when I WANT the boys to be able to socialize and prepare for kindergarten, we can't afford even the crappy ones. Sometimes, you just can't win.<br /><br />However much - or little - you are paying is irrelevant. They are your children, and you have the right to say what happens to them. You definitely need to bring this stuff up with the daycare teachers and directors.TooeleTwinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10104667417655628403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5228627609350666642.post-6355124254201185022011-05-15T08:32:49.494-04:002011-05-15T08:32:49.494-04:00Totally valid concerns. Have you brought them up t...Totally valid concerns. Have you brought them up to the director?jessiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17048960064364250283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5228627609350666642.post-92156150316552896542011-05-14T16:20:31.045-04:002011-05-14T16:20:31.045-04:00Ugh. I wouldn't hesitate to discuss your conce...Ugh. I wouldn't hesitate to discuss your concerns with the Director of the daycare. There needs to be an increase in their "awareness" of the basic safety concerns you raised. I would make a list of your concerns and give the director a dated copy to verify you discussed these items and then watch closely over the next couple days/weeks to see what/if any changes she makes... Safety is #1 and their license could easily be pulled for some of the items you mentioned.Finch and Wrenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18248260211043919261noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5228627609350666642.post-84637633085309007812011-05-14T08:37:42.956-04:002011-05-14T08:37:42.956-04:00I commented on this the first time around. Hope yo...I commented on this the first time around. Hope you got it!Strawberryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00800336069786992859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5228627609350666642.post-46039036233976350242011-05-12T15:07:05.564-04:002011-05-12T15:07:05.564-04:00I can't really comment on much because I don&#...I can't really comment on much because I don't have DD in daycare although the sunscreen issue is annoying and I'd be pissed off about it. It's not fair putting LO's outside without the proper protection. I know moms on BBC were talking about this recently and they said it's the parents responsibility for the first application in the AM. So make sure you're sending them with sunblock on AND provide hats with wide brims. I'm blonde, the sun scares me. <br /><br />Speak to the director if things feel wrong. I'm sure this stiff goes on at the fancy daycares too so don't think you should let stuff go because you're paying less.J and DZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13533759063110718037noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5228627609350666642.post-8136827266451974332011-05-12T14:57:25.826-04:002011-05-12T14:57:25.826-04:00Daycare pains are the WORST. You end up feeling so...Daycare pains are the WORST. You end up feeling so angry and helpless at the same time. We've so been there. Took us 3 tries to find the 'perfect' daycare, but of course, we have issues with a Biter that hasn't been effectively dealt with. Still, everything else has been great with the newest place.<br /><br />We pay more for our current daycare but get much more peace of mind in return. Thankfully the price will go down once he's in the next room (have you checked to see if there are price changes dependent on age in the other daycares?)<br /><br />Personally, we needed to switch and were pretty unhappy until we did so. Not putting sunblock on a baby and letting older kids 'visit' during quiet times...those are real problems, among the others you listed. Not good. I'm sorry you're dealing with this.Strawberryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00800336069786992859noreply@blogger.com